Frustration

 This is the lot of a human being. We are bound to get frustrated…we are not vegetables! We desire, we aspire and we expect, and when we don’t get what we want, we get frustrated. Frustration is a double-edged sword, as it has a positive aspect and a negative aspect.

 If we can do something about a situation, that’s fine. If we can’t, it’s pointless worrying about it, as that only creates stress. This is obvious, isn’t it?

 We need time to assimilate a skill: that means creating some space. Creating space also helps others to assimilate a situation. If someone is having a bit of a tantrum, let them be. We are not ignoring them, but ‘allowing’ them to experience.

 The speed at which we go will depend on this space and clarity. Our problem is that we want improvement now, and so we become frustrated, and this smothers a situation – which in turn leads to excessive activity and addiction. Want it..can’t get it..get it…can’t hold onto it…want it! Learning is experimenting and experiencing, and not just “doing as you are told”.

 Let’s say that we desire clarity:
we first have to drop any expectations – we don’t need more obstacles from the past! The situation in which we now find ourselves was created by our past, which left an imprint in the mind, creating the karma through which we now live. We have to drop our expectation and reactions, or we will create new or deeper karma…and maybe we do not actually know what we want 😉

We have to accept our capacity at this moment, and know it is enough to get us through the situation. The situation is our confusion…our confusion is our path. We must recognise our personal obstacle to be able to drop it.

 We spend more time trying to sort out our outer life, than we do our inner life. Peace will never be found in the outer, as there is always something more to do. It is in the inner world that peace is found. Once we find that, the outer world is merely a magical display…vanishing into space.

If we desire, aspire or expect
in a desperate “I want!” way,
we will creates a negative atmosphere
and cause much suffering.

 If we desire, aspire or expect
with a supplication “to be of benefit to others”,
this creates a positive atmosphere,
with creative possibilities.

 If we want to achieve something,
we need “time to assimilate”…
and practice makes perfect.

First, be kind to the situation.