Over-Confidence, Confidence or a Lack of Confidence

Another touchy subject!

Separation <—connection—> separation.
“Not too tight and not too loose.”

When we appear over-confident, others want to bring us down.
When others appear over-confident, we want to bring them down.

When we lack confidence, we become aggressive.
When others lack confidence, they become aggressive.

Both over-confidence and lack of confidence have no empathy for others as it’s
‘all about me’.
Confidence is empathising with the situation and with others, neither accepting nor rejecting.

It gets worse 😉 !
Over-confidence and lack of confidence are pride and inverted pride; both are rooted in arrogance (self importance).

People with pride feel themselves special, and better than others.
People with inverted pride (upside down) feel special because they are a victim, and less fortunate than others.

Pride monopolises the conversation with how wonderful, and how much more deserving and special we are: me first!
Inverted pride monopolises the conversation with self-condemnation, insisting that everyone else go first!

Both attitudes are all about me, me, me with little consideration for the rest of humanity. There is no recognition that other people also have their own good qualities and shortcomings.

It gets worse 😉 !
We are talking here about both forms of narcissism:

1. Excessive preoccupation with or admiration of oneself.

2. A personality disorder characterised by self-preoccupation, a need for admiration, a lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem.

Confidence is being relaxed with how we are,
and never gets touchy.

Everybody knows this.