Why Don’t We Get On With Certain People?

Get on with: have a harmonious or friendly relationship.

When we sit with others we don’t know, we neither like or dislike them. It’s when we start to speak that memories and emotions come to the surface, causing immediate judgements and reactions that we obsess upon, fixing our bias.

This bias comes from our personal background, our programming. If our experience is limited, we are quick to judge. If our experiences are more expansive, we hold back to look behind whatever is being said.

This is where empathy and wisdom have to come to the fore, calling on a place that is beyond the usual constructs of the human mind, and where there are no expectations. We sometimes call this the ‘heart’, but it is, of course, pure consciousness.

Talking beyond the usual chit chat
is talking heart to heart, being honest about our feelings.

Mind to mind is intellectual.
Body to body is extra friendly, but can take an ugly turn.
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Silence to silence is the best,
it’s perfectly harmonious.