Talking Out Dharma Problems

If we don’t talk about our problems, we just become a Dharma automaton. We may learn words and phrases, but we have no practicality in benefitting others; just following by rote is self-

obsession. Through questioning our assumptions, however, we move closer to shared human truths. When we’re released from ourassumptions about politics, religion, science, social entertainment etc, we may realise how these activities bind us. And Dharma is no different.

We go to retreats and lectures and we read books, but how often do we share experiences that are positive or negative? It’s just a matter of being honest, but unfortunately, it is rare to find anyone who can listen. That is a real shock. Having a problem with a method or a tradition doesn’t mean were being negative; we have to work with what we experience without judgement. Doing a hundred thousand prostrations may benefit some people, while being pointless for others. If a therapy isn’t working, it makes sense to try something else… 

Until we can talk freely, we are still locked in the thoughts, assumptions and emotions of others. Monkey see, monkey do.

Sharing is seeing the potential of a situation more clearly, more compassionately, by looking at the problem in a new or different light. This can release built-up tension as we gain insight into both ourselves, and the situation that’s causing us a problem. Unfortunately, what actually happens is that, through fear of admitting any doubts about doctrine, people clam up.

Finding out that you’re not alone and that you are able to help others is a fulfilling life.