Home Alone

We assume that having a large circle of ‘friends’ means success, while being alone means there’s something wrong with us. It all depends on the level of confidence and insight. Some of us need to be part of a group, while others don’t. This isn’t being isolationist or thinking we’re special; we appreciate deeper connections, and are always willing to help.

Through empathy, we recognise others’ intentions and ability to cope. Friendships are often based on mutual validation – a meeting of facts or photos, which is not the same as a meeting of minds. We’ve stopped being manipulated.

Mara* turns away when not validated. No longer craving attention, we don’t make a drama out of everything, and step back from the chaos of fact fighters, maintaining space and inner peace over selective outrage and concern. There is an understanding that wasting time on gossip, passive aggressive behaviour and attention-seeking is futile.

We don’t need to be included. Silence doesn’t scare us. The more deeply we feel, the fewer people we attract. It’s a natural marketing strategy to avoid wasting time. 🙂

People aren’t comfortable around those who don’t become over-excited as this feels like a threat ­- it’s one reason why we don’t become involved in others’ assumptions. Mindfulness walks alone. It’s not standoffishness, although it could be seen like that.

Most people avoid self-reflection.

Some are surrounded by noise for comfort,
but we have no need for distractions.

In conscious awareness, distractions are obvious.
This is why Mara can never succeed.

*Mara is our narcissistic tendencies – inflated; self-important; a constant need for admiration; a sense of entitlement; a lack of empathy; exhibiting exploitative behaviour leading to grandiosity; arrogance; fantasies of success; envy; treating people as objects to fulfil needs, all while ignoring the feelings of others. In other words, in love with one’s own self-reflection.