Dealing With The Abuse, Not The Abuser

The greatest method in reducing karma is non-reaction, seeing the abuse as our teacher, which shows us our state of mind. This has nothing to do with the abuser or whatever they say; Mara can’t help it – it just wants to control.

This isn’t easy if we haven’t controlled our Mara.
Everyone is an abuser.
Everyone seeks validation.

This method is all about our non-reaction. We aren’t ignoring what is said, but we address it in an ‘unlocking’ way – a little side-step so as not to escalate the situation. Mara wants a reaction to feed off, like a hungry ghost that constantly needs satisfaction, so we just give it a titbit to shine a little light.

This is how insanity is turned into sanity.
Until we’re perfectly enlightened, everyone is some sort of abuser,
so everyone is our teacher.
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Just consider what Thích Nhất Hạnh or the Dalai Lama would do.