Warmth And Wisdom
Warmth and wisdom = integrity = conduct = compassion

This is easier to say than do.

In our relative spiritual world, genuine warmth and wisdom are lacking. Giving money for bigger temples may be splendid, virtuous and extravagant, but it is not an honest face-to-face caring for our spiritual neighbour who may be having a problem.

We want to appear: pure, lacking in sin, impeccable, spotless, virtuous, honourable, righteous, moral, decent, and blameless, so that we don’t become contaminated. We ignore others’ problems – “It’s their karma.” I’ve seen this happen all too often, even from lamas. We may chant prayers in Tibetan or Sanskrit for those afar, but do we want to get our hands dirty?

If we have compassion and no wisdom, we make things worse.
If we have wisdom and no compassion, we make things worse.
If we say, “I don’t know what to do”, we’re not making things worse, but we’re not making things better either. More to the point, we are becoming insensitive, as we don’t even try.

We need a medium length fuse:
A short fuse will explode quickly because of reactive emotions.
A long fuse never explode as we become indifferent and non-interactive.

Show you care; peel someone a grape before they ask!
A group is as strong as its weakest member.