Should I Hate or Should I Love?
What a strange question. Or is it?
There are strong connotations and assumptions about the words we use – supposition, presupposition, presumption, premise, belief, expectation, conjecture, speculation, surmise, guess, theory, hypothesis, postulation, conclusion, deduction, inference, thought, suspicion, notion, impression, fancy, guesswork, reckoning…
In allowing ourselves to misuse words when expressing what are are actually experiencing, we can easily lose our sense of direction and so, our path: thoughts and language can distort our minds.
The words ‘hate’ and ‘love’ both have very strong connotations, but do we really mean them? When using the words ‘hate’ and ‘love’ associated with inanimate objects, these are merely expedient words – which are, in fact, an exaggeration. This may seem harmless, but the thoughtless repetition of such words in this way distorts our understanding. When we apply the words ‘hate’ and ‘love’ to others, these words acquire more potency, and sound more literal. However, both words are quite banal and commonplace. The opposite of banal is original – returning to the origin of experience.
“But I don’t hate, I love!”
Hate: loathe, detest, dislike greatly, abhor, abominate, despise, execrate, feel aversion towards, feel revulsion towards, feel hostile towards, be repelled by, be revolted by, regard with disgust, be unable to stomach, find intolerable, shudder at, recoil from…
Love: deep affection, fondness, liking, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment, devotion, adoration, doting, idolization, worship; passion, ardour, desire, lust, yearning, infatuation, adulation, besotted…
This is using words in a relative, dualistic way, relating to something or someone outside ourselves.
Should I Hate or should I Love with regard to spirituality?
Here we are talking about samsara, our circle of existence of ‘ups and downs’, of constant frustrations in our search for happiness and fulfilment, which, in truth, causes our suffering. With this recognition, we start to look inwards, but find that we are pulled in two directions at once. We wish to reject samsara and long for nirvana – and there’s hate and love again!
When we lose our sense of direction, we lose our path, and so we suffer. The things we ‘love’ are causing us pain, which we ‘hate’. We feel disgust at the very things that cause us suffering. This very recognition of the cause of suffering is the path that ends suffering – and we find our sense of direction again 😉
It’s a conundrum! It’s crazy! It’s the meaning of the two truths!!!!
It’s being original.