Getting Too Close Ends In Tears

If we have an expectation that we should all be one, we will end up as two, and disappointed.

We can be at one, while remaining two…there’s more space!

If we want to stay friends, then we shouldn’t get too close. Friendship is momentary and then we let go, otherwise we might smother, making unreasonable demands and assumptions. Compassion is spacious and generous; it doesn’t mean living in some else’s shoes, and telling them how to walk.

There comes a point when we realise we are not seeing things the same way, and that’s ok. Our paths of confused assumptions are different.

The deeper we go spiritually, the more clearly we see our own fixations, and therefore can empathise with others. Generous space is essential for compassionate communication.

And always remember: we are born alone, and we die alone. And we spend much of the intervening time worrying about being alone 😉

Khalil Gibran said it so eloquently:

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”