People are a Problem

We are people, therefore we are a problem

We cannot accept one another the way we are.
We want others to change,
while not changing ourselves.
That’s the problem!
When we change, we see others differently.

To accept others the way they are is love. Love is not blind: it sees the faults and knows the vulnerable nature of those faults. Love knows our true nature, and that the way we appear to be is merely a temporary, lingering covering. The hallmark of right practice is an increase in faith, compassion and intelligence: through right practice we change, because the obscurations are dissolving.

We all fall into the very same traps when encountering others: we either attracted to, repulsed by or ignore them (and between you and me, Buddhists enjoy the same delusions!) We cannot help this as these same principles – attraction, repulsion and inertia – govern the whole physical universe. That’s relative reality for you! However, when we understand the nature of relative reality, then we see that the universe is transformed by ultimate reality…love!

Can we change?

Well, if we are talking about the relative/conventional level, then in changing our personality, we will only fall into the same old traps of like, dislike and indifference; even though we may appear better, appear smarter, appear compassionate, we are still partial.

Actually, our personality (which is how we express ourselves) has much to do with our upbringing. I’ve never seen anyone truly change their personality, and it’s probably a waste of time anyway, as we may still find that we remain partial, attracting some and repulsing others!

Change happens when personality dissolves,
revealing the impartial potential of ultimate reality.

Now that’s a real change.

We are then no longer
awkward, lonely worms!

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  1. tt4r says:

    So true. And real change is so needed, no longer by individuals but by all 7 billion of us.

    • tony says:

      Mass enlightenment!
      We may have to wait for the “Golden Age” for that 🙂

      There are infinite sentient beings on this planet. If all present human suddenly become enlightened, and zoom off to the Buddha realms, there will still be a infinite amount of sentient beings to take our place, and they will have to go through the same process.

      Of course there would then be 7 billion new enlightened beings to help them!

      Yours off in fantasy land,

      • tt4r says:

        We tend to be lost in our sense and notion of our selves, one another and the world. I insist on the whole being in creation of whom our reality and all that we may experience and be, are parts created and placed, or projected, by his or her nervous system, in reality. Identified with our self and what we experience, we are isolated from a possible relation with who projects our reality. Our reality is projection, an “illusion” if we identify with it, and a “delusion” if we believe it real, though most do and so our clinical and legal definition, of what most reasonable people would not think true, excludes delusion to indicate what most believe to be real.
        Then again, most people are quiet about their deepest convictions. I think a lot of our interactions are “join them if you can’t beat them”, or “its the best out of a bunch”. We wait patiently and are moved to rise to an occasion when at least our deeper sentiments may be expressed.
        Fancy a fantasy ? There’s a whole being waiting for us to become a part. who may be then complete, rather than carrying an identity trying its best. to be, become or do, while missing the happening of reality, the whole body alive in creation. A godly being spirited at core and throughout, and who encompass our all – that we are and experience.
        You might be interested in my post “emptiness, nothingness and the spirit”, a short simple definition and distinction of two Zen terms.

  2. tt4r says:

    Excuse me Tony, bad form. I missed a paragraph, it goes at the top of the comment above. Look forwards to your thoughts.

    While Earth affords us to have a piece of mind, we can change, become and be, a part of the happening of a whole being in creation. The population curve is reflected in every parameter of Earth and humanity. It is an incentive. I don’t mean to be alarmist, but “people are a problem”.

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  4. tony says:

    Dear tt4r
    I read your blog post and it’s interesting. It also reveals that other traditions use language differently, and there are slight variations on the same theme; following investigation, we have to move in the realm that we find suits us. It’s impossible to mix traditions and methods because, as the saying goes, it’s like sewing with a two-headed needle (I tried mixing, and got very confused, frustrated – and angry!). Traditions are based around the definition and understanding of terminology, which has been going on for thousands of years.

    The more we reflect and practise, the more we refine, and the simpler everything becomes. From a Tibetan Buddhist viewpoint, emptiness is known by awareness looking in on itself and finding nothing but awareness. It is ’empty’ of attributes and concepts and is therefore pure awareness: the nature of our mind and our being.

    There is a sort of oneness in the meeting of minds, but as sentient beings we separate ourselves from one another. Again, in Tibetan Buddhism, there is a phrase “the two-fold omniscience” which is an understanding of the nature of self, and of all phenomena – which is emptiness. To know this, there has to be pure awareness, as without this, nothing can be known.

    The more the clarity, the less the obstacles in the mind. The more the clarity, the more is seen. A meeting of minds in this day and age is rare: we connect for a moment and then move on, because we are living in a relative understanding (even those within the same path, studying under the same teacher, may not agree – and often don’t!) Ultimately, we recognise that all sentient beings have the same awakened nature, although this may be expressed in a unique way. We recognise the obscurations in others, as they also arise within ourselves, and through compassion we merely let them be.

    Confidence comes from our own understanding, and the more we reflect and meditate, the more that refines.


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