People are a Problem
We are people, therefore we are a problem
We cannot accept one another the way we are.
We want others to change,
while not changing ourselves.
That’s the problem!
When we change, we see others differently.
To accept others the way they are is love. Love is not blind: it sees the faults and knows the vulnerable nature of those faults. Love knows our true nature, and that the way we appear to be is merely a temporary, lingering covering. The hallmark of right practice is an increase in faith, compassion and intelligence: through right practice we change, because the obscurations are dissolving.
We all fall into the very same traps when encountering others: we either attracted to, repulsed by or ignore them (and between you and me, Buddhists enjoy the same delusions!) We cannot help this as these same principles – attraction, repulsion and inertia – govern the whole physical universe. That’s relative reality for you! However, when we understand the nature of relative reality, then we see that the universe is transformed by ultimate reality…love!
Can we change?
Well, if we are talking about the relative/conventional level, then in changing our personality, we will only fall into the same old traps of like, dislike and indifference; even though we may appear better, appear smarter, appear compassionate, we are still partial.
Actually, our personality (which is how we express ourselves) has much to do with our upbringing. I’ve never seen anyone truly change their personality, and it’s probably a waste of time anyway, as we may still find that we remain partial, attracting some and repulsing others!
Change happens when personality dissolves,
revealing the impartial potential of ultimate reality.
Now that’s a real change.
We are then no longer
awkward, lonely worms!