What Can We Trust?
Good things happen to us, bad things happen to us, horrid things happen to us: there is no escaping this fact because it’s actually happening. That is what we can trust – that things happen. What matters is how we deal with situations so as not to create more of the same, which includes repeating the same behaviour and expecting the situation to produce a different outcome. Incidentally, naming things as ‘good’, ‘bad’ or ‘horrid’ colours or limits the situation. Things happen, and projecting on to those events and labelling them as ‘good’ ‘bad’ or ‘horrid’ limits our understanding as the converse may actually be true: as an example, something ‘horrid’ happening could be a wake up call, whereas something that appears to be ‘good’ could send us back into a dream, and provide the stimulus for another ‘horrid’ event.
Things happen for a reason, as everything is connected. Whether we call it karma, synchronicity or the result of a cause, things do not ‘just happen’. We may not see the cause, but nothing comes out of the blue, even though it may appear so.
Funnily enough, it’s karma – our teacher – that we can trust: the consequences of our previous experiences and actions that have created our confused behaviour is precisely our path back to the sanity of realisation. Self-realisation. Our spiritual path to realisation of the cessation of our personal confusion. Our confusion is undone by the light of clarity. It is we who uncover the reason why we cling to certain ideas that actually cause us suffering – which we then inflict on everyone else! This requires seeing clearly – the clarity of pure consciousness.
Whatever appears to our consciousness is for us alone to deal with. This ‘dealing with’ entails neutralising our reaction to appearances. Of course, when something arises, you can bet it comes attached to a few other problems … I mean, blessings! 😀
The way we see is so important, as it is in that very moment that we can catch all those justifying reactions playing out. Conscience knows. That is the lesson: to trust. It’s no good sitting at the feet of the guru in adoration, and then going outside and lacking compassion for those who annoy us (other students!).
There are some who feel life is a pain. Can we empathise with that? If we cannot empathise – or do not want to empathise – with another’s suffering, then what use are we? What use are we if we cannot even recognise their suffering? To be able to observe our reactions honestly is a Buddha-send, a God-send, a blessing. We can trust such blessings, even though they may appear painful.
If another’s suffering arises in our consciousness, then that is our karma: we empathise with their pain, and our skill and capacity will dictate what we then do. If we ignore our conscience and intuition, then it doesn’t matter how many teachings we have attended, it’s still ‘all about me and mine’.
We don’t have to feel guilty about this. Just admit and trust in seeing our reactions – or rather the programmed reactions in the mind that are sold to us as ‘living the dream’ – and then we learn something real! Self-real-isation!
A guru cannot make us better.
It is we who have to see.
Even the Buddhas cannot do that for us;
all they can do is show the way.
Even though everything seems to fall apart,
there is a feeling of relief.