Dealing With Our Anger
We all get angry at some time about some thing,
but in truth, we experience each emotion at some time.
All the emotions are wisdom;
anger is mirror-like wisdom.
This is subtle stuff.
We first have to realise – or accept, or acknowledge – the possibility that we are not only consciousness, but pure consciousness. Pure consciousness is uncontaminated seeing, and is totally objective; we see perfectly, before our comments and judgements arise. This is the subtle appreciation of our being – seeing and the thing seen.
In ordinary understanding, seeing and the thing seen are a duality while, in ultimate realisation, seeing and the thing seen are a unity of non-duality. This is extremely subtle realisation.
Okay, so … when an emotion such as anger arises, what was happening just before that anger? In the first instant, there had to be seeing. We saw something that we then thought was wrong. A picture on the wall is wonky; seeing this, we may experience a subtle irritation and have to put that picture straight. Anger is connected to fear and desire, as we desire things to be right and we fear that no one else sees this … mutter … mutter … mutter … 😀
Sometimes, there are wonky people out there, and we feel that we have to put them straight as well! But before this occurs, there is pure seeing; something we see is wonky (off-centre, unstable) with that person. Even when acknowledging the smell of a beautiful flower, before that acknowledgement there was just seeing and smelling. It is the same with all the senses: in the first moment, there is pure perception, pure consciousness and so, before our interpretation and analysis, there is observation.
The funny thing is that, when we react, it is we who become unstable and wonky! This what happens when we listen to or watch the ‘news’ – our reaction destabilises us. 😀
To get to the point …
We are pure consciousness. In the very first instant of seeing something, the mind brightens. It’s alerted and, in that moment, is pure wisdom. So that seeing, that brightness, is the light of clarity, which is pure consciousness, our first nature (to stay constantly in this state would be enlightenment.) The emotion reminds us to return to our true, compassionate nature, which is compassionate because we see what others do not while empathising with forgetting our true reality.
Now, through clarity, we can address the situation
without anger and harm.
The point is that our calmness and insight create an atmosphere that is pacifying. We become a reminder of what people already know.
There are four enlightened activities in Buddhism: pacifying, magnetising, enriching and destroying – bringing an end to ego’s games (enter ‘the four enlightened activities’ in the search box at the bottom of this page for more detail).
“We are free in the moment of seeing.”
– Tulku Urgyen
Once we see, it isn’t subtle any more.
The more powerful the emotion,
the more powerful the wisdom.