Why Don’t We Talk About How We Really Feel?
We don’t talk about how we really feel because we fear it will open a “can of worms” – the tangled, unpleasant mess that we hide away from others. By putting up with the can of worms, however, we just enable more worms. This exemplifies the Solomon Asch experiment on conformity.
The “can of worms” is our mind; we know that we hold on to all sorts of pretence, and once we have invested in that make-believe, we create a load of trouble for ourselves.
When we can face how we actually do feel, the worms disentangle.
In fact, they never existed.
Meditation is sitting in our can of worms,
watching them disappear.
“Why did I hang on to these worms for so long?”