“Be Happy!” What’s Happiness?
Isn’t it annoying when someone says, “Be happy”? When we are not certain of what happiness really is and how to achieve it, we become confused.
Happiness cannot be having material possessions or doing things, as that is just a temporary arrangement to fill up ‘time’. This idea of happiness relies on conditions: it is conditional happiness – the fake thing – as opposed to the real thing, which unconditional happiness – our natural state that does not rely on conditions. In fact, when we look closely at our fixated ideas, this happiness that relies on conditions is actually the cause of suffering. We act like a two year old when we realise that we can’t have or can’t do something, and we throw an adult tantrum.
There is a report out today stating that rich people are happier because they have more ‘time’ as they get other people to do chores for them, freeing them up to do what they want. This a spurious, fake, false analysis. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/science-environment-40703519
It is true that having ‘time’ and ‘space’ are conditions of happiness, but how can this be unconditional happiness?
Authentic happiness is pure being, and having the ‘time’ and ‘space’ to realise this. It’s a simple life. The less you want, the less you need, and the more ‘time’ and ‘space’ is available: I remember Chokyi Nyima Rinpoche saying that the Nepalese were happier before western ideas arrived in Nepal.
Happiness is the realisation of our true being, our essential nature, our ultimate consciousness that no outside force can disturb. But consciousness can be distracted. As long as we are distracted, we will never find happiness.
We can fetch water, chop wood, clean the floor while still remaining in ‘timeless spaciousness’.
Just remember to be …